If sleeping excites you more than having sex in the bedroom, your libido may need a little boost.  Having a low sex drive at different points in life is a normal thing that happens for a variety of different reasons.  In fact, it has been shown that 32 percent of women and 15 percent of men lack the desire to have sex on a consistent basis.  Some of the causes of decreased libido could come from anxiety, stress, depression, obesity and the most popular one – medications.

So, instead of spending your dollars on fancy new lingerie or an expensive bottle of champaigne, consider taking a ride to your local grocery store.  Those of you who know me, know that I am tying food into this somehow. LOL

All kidding aside – eating healthy foods not only allow you to feel better about yourself which will increase confidence, having a healthy diet may increase your mood, energy levels and stamina.  All of these things can contribute to increasing the libido.  Research shows that there are specific foods and nutrients that can spice things up in the bedroom.  So, make sure to include these things in your diet:


Rich in magnesium, spinach decreases inflammation in blood vessels, which means increased blood flow to your extremities and increased arousal – much in the same way Viagra works. This leafy green is also rich in folate, a vitamin that gives older men’s nether regions a new lease on life.  No wonder Popeye and Olive Oyl were running around together all the time… now YOU can charm your lover with a delicious green smoothie – check my website if you need a recipe. 🙂


These superfruits are rich in vitamin E, which has antioxidant properties, potassium, and vitamin B6, which may prevent or delay heart disease and promote better blood flow.  They’re also a good source of heart-healthy monounsaturated fats. Anything that helps your heart and circulation can also be critical for a healthy sex life. Men with heart disease are twice as likely to have erectile dysfunction because both conditions can result from artery damage.  Add avocado to your salads, sandwiches, eggs.  Or better yet – make a delicious bowl of guacamole with tortilla chips. 

Black Berries

Both the berries and the seeds will transform your mind-set for getting in the mood.  Pop in a handful a day to keep bedroom boredom at bay. “This phytochemical-rich food enhances both libido and sexual endurance,” say Drs. Anna Maria and Brian Clement, authors of 7 Keys to Lifelong Sexual Vitality.  Black berries are delicious all on their own.  Enjoy! 


Beef contains zinc, and iron, which helps red blood cells transport oxygen, giving you energy. Plus, it contains B vitamins and protein for fuel and endurance. Protein will also help stimulate the release of dopamine, a neurotransmitter that controls the brain’s reward and pleasure centers.  Make sure your beef is grass fed and organic if possible.  

Warm Spices

Turns out there’s a reason people refer to “spicing things up” in the bedroom. Cayenne produces heat by increasing circulation and blood flow. Nutmeg and cinnamon are used in many cultures as an aphrodisiac.  Just the aroma of the these spices could improve your mood, soothe nerves, and spark your sex drive.  As the weather gets colder, have a “couples tea time” before bed.  Slow simmer 1 cinnamon stick into  2 cups of water for about 15 minutes.  Add a drop of honey if desired.


A 2017 study of Italian women and their chocolate eating habits found that women who regularly nibbled on cocoa wanted and enjoyed sex more than women who barely touched the stuff. This may be because chocolate increases both serotonin and dopamine levels in the brain, making us happy and lowering our stress level – both of these are “mood” boosters. Another theory is that cocoa increases blood flow through the arteries and relaxes blood vessels—sending blood to all the right regions.  


Even if you’re taking a natural approach to boosting your sex drive, it still might be a good idea to talk with your doctor. They can help you identify underlying problems.  Your doctor may suggest some strategies for enhancing sexual health. These may include communicating with your partner, making healthy lifestyle choices, and treating underlying medical conditions. Knowing the root of the problem affecting your sex life will make it easier to find a solution.  It’s important to remember that every couple is different. It may take a little experimentation to find out what works best for you.  If you do decide to turn to prescription drugs, remember that desire is at the core of sex. It’s important to remember that a little blue pill may not be the answer if emotional issues are affecting your libido.